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Photobucket I'm friends only now, for multiple reasons, mostly because I do have some inflammatory stuff in here. Just comment to this entry if you want to read my fics*/personal rantings/whathaveyou or see my icons**/macros/Red Wings picspam/whatever.

I don't bite, honest not unless it's a full moon anyway ;) and if you could, let me know how you found me, so's I know you're not a stalker even though I'm probably too boring for one of those. There's an incredibly good chance I'll add you back. By incredibly, I mean I will unless you're like an Avs fan (kidding), or an obvious troll, or I see something on your profile that I really disagree with (like you're a complete homophobe, for example).

Comments are screened. Please do not add me without commenting, because I won't add you back.

*My writing is now archived over at [livejournal.com profile] keeper_of_tales.

**My icons are archived at [livejournal.com profile] hockeytownicons

My Friends Only banner was made by me.
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There is a line between slash and fetishization, and that line gets dangerously close to being crossed 96% of the time.

I enjoy slash, obviously, I mean, I write it, but sometimes it's more a matter of "Guys fucking = hot" then it is a matter of "Guys fucking = hot, but there's more to a character than who he sleeps with." I don't mind PWP, but it doesn't *always* need to be about the sex. Sometimes you can have actual plot without gratuitous porning. You don't see a whole lot of slash fics that are just you know, little snapshots in time, two (or three, or more) men just being together, as a couple. A lot of it is fucking, which is all well and good in it's place, but it seems that lately, all the slashfic I read is either about the sex, or is leading up to sex.

If I'm going to read any kind of relationship fic, regardless of the genders of the characters involved, I want it to be believable. People interacting as people, not just as cut and paste sex objects. If two guys are going at it, make it about them, not the sex. I don't want to read fic where you can snip one guy out and put anyone else in there and have it read the same way. That just doesn't work. If it's a grudgefuck, fine, show me inside their heads and make me get why they're grudgefucking. Same thing for if they're suddenly in love forever, or anything else. I can understand a snippet of a pairing, just a one shot, with other similar fics being worked on. That's cool, I'm currently doing that with Holmstrom/Turco.

I also take umbrage at straight women telling me what I can and cannot do in bed. Not all gay men have anal sex. Sometimes we just tangle together and jerk off. Sometimes, we switch in between. Sometimes, we have terrible sex. We can have sex in missionary. Sometimes, we don't want to have sex, but we do it anyway because our partner wants it. Depending on your level of experience, you might opt to not use lube. If you've had anal sex several times, you probably don't need an intense amount of prepreparation. It all depends on the mood, and how you feel at the time. We don't always have sex in bed. We are just as fluid as anyone else is, when it comes to fucking.

And you know, we're not woobies. We don't need another person to depend on all the time. We can take care of ourselves, without a boyfriend there to hold us. Support is fine, codependance is not. Being gay does not make you incapable of being self-sufficient. A lot of us have no choice *but* to be self-sufficient, and usually from a young age. It comes part and parcel with being queer.

The trend, too, of essentially making one of the slash pair the "woman" is irritating and offensive on so many levels, and not a little misogynistic either. Not only do most straight relationships not work like that, gay ones don't either. BECAUSE HELLO THEY ARE BOTH MEN. The dynamic is gonna be different, because the combination of genders is. It's like writers just take the general conception of a hetero relationship and slot two men into those same roles. We are men, and, while there is nothing wrong with being a woman, at all, most men are not going to act like a man and woman would. The genders are different, the societal expectations of those genders are different, and the way two people of opposite genders relate to one another is generally not going to be the same way two people of the same gender will relate to one another. Isn't the typical "nuclear" hetero relationship just a Hollywood concept anyway? In my experience, Hollywood is not really a great basis for forming relationships in the first place.

How about we try to write our characters as functioning, capable adults, equal partners in the relationship, and not horrifically offensive stereotypes? I'm not trying to be the Ambassador of gay men here, I'm just trying to point out that, as a gay man, and having spoken to other gay men about this same thing, I think I have a little more basis to preach about this sort of things than the majority of the writers of slashfic out there.
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Somewhere in West Philadelphia, you will find an old basketball court with a single ball lying in the middle. Pick it up and start shooting hoops. After a while, a small group of hooligans will approach you and challenge you to a fight, which you must accept.

After the fight, you must go home and relay the events to your mother. She will then inform you that you have an aunt and uncle living in one of the districts of Los Angeles, and out of fear, she will send you to live there for an indefinite period of time.

With your bags packed, go to the street corner, and whistle for a cab. The cab that will pull up will bear the word FRESH on the license plate, and upon closer inspection, novelty fuzzy dice will hang in the mirror. Although you will suddenly realize that cabs like these are extremely hard to find, do not bear any thought to it. At this point you MUST point out in front of the car and say ‘Yo homes to Bel Air’. You will stop in front of a mansion, and it will be sometime between 7 and 8 o’clock, even though it will feel like you’ve been travelling mere seconds. Get your luggage out and say ‘Yo homes, smell ya later!’, but do NOT turn back to face the cabby. Walk up to the door, look over your shoulder once, and then knock on the door three times.

If you follow these instructions, your life will get flip-turned upside-down.l
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I love myself.

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And the Red Wings won! AND THE STARS DID TOO! I totally jaw-dropped when they sent Bertuzzi out, but holy CRAP, he actually managed to come up with a goal. I think my reaction was along the lines of "HOLY SHIT I THINK THE POLARITY OF THE UNIVERSE JUST REVERSED!

Still not a good night though :( Giant screaming match earlier. This does, however, snap me out of my funk a little.
redwing_badger: (Homer: omgyay!)
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Made by [livejournal.com profile] he_is_dead_jim

It is also my 500th LJ post, yay!

So let's have 'em. Your macros, your GIFs, your story-threads, your hockey player picspams, bring them here and we shall see how long we can keep this thing going. (I will be going to bed after the game, but I'm working tonight, so let's go :D)

Here, have [livejournal.com profile] he_is_dead_jim's Swede Mon

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And his Swede Von (I did this one lol):

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Swede Mon, driving in a Swede von
Drivin like a mad mon
It's the motherfuckin Swede Mon!


LET'S GO :D!

Remember, the post is public, so bring friends. Don't let me down, O my F-list.

Ughhhh...

Jun. 20th, 2009 08:05 am
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You guys, on a comment on a Freep.com article...

Someone called Sidney Crosby "Mr. Hockey".

I think I'm going to be sick.

I don't care if it is a troll, you just don't fucking do that!

There is only one Mr. Hockey, and that is Gordie Howe.

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